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NON MONOGAMY - sparking DEEPER connections, STEAMY encounters, and UNFORGETTABLE experiences, while keeping it safe & sexy!!!.

Somatic Sex Coaching & Sexological Bodywork

Somatic Sex Education (SSE) is a trauma-informed, client-led approach that bridges the gap between therapy and bodywork. This work is rooted in pleasure-based healing, using neuroplasticity to rewire patterns and deepen your connection to yourself. Through a mix of guided exploration, somatic practices, and (when appropriate) hands-on support, I help you map, reclaim, and expand your experience of pleasure.

I offer in-person sessions in my private Calgary studio and virtual coaching for those outside the area. Some of the experiences we can explore together include:

- Genital & Pelvic Dearmouring (healing from emotional, religious, physical & sexual trauma)
- Pleasure Mapping & Direct Pleasure Awareness
- Orgasm Coaching & Masturbation Support
- Desire & Fantasy Exploration
- Erotic Massage & Touch for Couples
- Non-Monogamy & Open Relationship Coaching
- Empowered Choice, Voice & Boundaries
…and so much more.

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Non-monogamy is about embracing openness, authenticity, and intentional connection in your relationships. There’s no one-size-fits-all approach—each dynamic is uniquely defined by you and your partners, rooted in communication, consent, and mutual respect.

With a strong foundation of self-awareness, trust, and clear agreements, non-monogamy can be a path to deeper intimacy, personal growth, and meaningful, life-changing connections. It’s an opportunity to honor your desires, explore your sacred sexual energy, and build relationships that truly align with who you are.

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OK, I’ll be honest…I wasn’t expecting to be this impressed by a pillow.

I get a lot of offers to test products, and this one caught my eye mostly because I was getting tired of using my everyday pillows during sexy time, only to sleep on them later LOL 👀

But from the moment the Quiver pillow arrived, I was pleasantly surprised! The packaging was beautiful and intentional, and it already felt like a product created with care.

Once I unboxed it, I realized just how this product was! As a Somatic Sex Educator, comfort and access are everything. Often, pelvic access on the massage table can be tricky depending on someone’s mobility, pain levels, or body mechanics. This pillow offers support, ease, and better positioning for clients all while feeling plush, soft, and genuinely comfortable!

And then I brought it to my own bed…

I have lower back and hip pain from impingements, and being folded into a pretzel sometimes hurts! But with the Quiver pillow? My hips felt supported, my lower back relaxed, and I could actually sink into pleasure instead of bracing.

You’ll see in the photos- I tried out a few different positions fully clothed (gotta keep the IG police happy 😂), and it blew me away how versatile this pillow is. It works for intimacy, for relaxation, for watching TV, for cozy comfort…very multi-use.

It’s lightweight, easy to travel with, and simple to keep clean. And I love that it’s designed right here in Canada!

But what I appreciate most is the accessibility piece.
So many people experience chronic pain, mobility limitations, hip or back issues AND having a tool that reduces strain while increasing pleasure is a complete game-changer. More comfort = more presence, more connection, and more pleasure.

From professional use to personal use, this pillow checks so many boxes! I’m genuinely impressed, and excited to weave it into both my practice and my own sexy shenanigans.

@QuiverPlayOfficial well done!

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When I first began training in genital dearmouring, I was fascinated by the theory: how the body stores tension, pain, and shame, and how intentional touch and consent-based practices can help release it.⁠
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Now, nearly 2 years into working with clients, I’ve witnessed the living proof of this work.⁠
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Here’s what I’ve seen again and again in sessions:⁠
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Many of us carry “armoring” - places in the body that feel numb, tense, painful, or shut down. This often comes from trauma, stress, or years of overriding our authentic desires. With gentle, body-led practices, I’ve seen clients move from bracing and disconnect… to softening, breathing, and finally feeling more at home in their bodies.⁠
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Touch imprints from our earliest experiences shape how safe (or unsafe) we feel in intimacy. Through slow, attuned touch and voice practices, clients begin to rewire those imprints. The body learns: “I will only receive what I want.” That shift creates space for more pleasure, more trust, and deeper intimacy with self and others.⁠
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One of the most healing parts of this work is helping clients find their voice. Saying “yes,” “no,” or “slower” while being listened to without question can be life-changing. I’ve seen clients tear up simply from the relief of being heard and honored in their boundaries.⁠
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Clients come to me for many reasons:⁠
✨ Pain during intercourse⁠
✨ Difficulty orgasming or feeling pleasure⁠
✨ Religious or cultural conditioning around sex⁠
✨ Wanting to feel safer, more confident, and more alive in their erotic selves⁠
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Every story is different, but the common thread is this: when the body feels safe, it opens. And when it opens, healing and pleasure become possible.⁠
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This work isn’t about fixing you, it’s about helping your body remember its own wisdom.⁠
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If you’ve been longing to feel more connected, more alive, and more empowered in your erotic body, this might be the invitation you’ve been waiting for.⁠
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(Link in bio to learn more)⁠
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#GenitalDearmouring #SomaticSexEducation #TraumaHealing #BodyWisdom #EroticHealing #PleasureIsHealing #ConsentCulture #SexualWellness

Something I’ve noticed, especially in non-monogamous spaces, is the belief that because women are “nurturing,” “safe,” or “less threatening,” they can’t violate consent. But that’s simply not true.⁠
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👉 Consent violations don’t only happen through aggression. They can happen through:⁠
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Touching someone without asking because “it’s just a hug.”⁠
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Assuming another woman at a play party wants to be touched because she’s dressed sexy or seems flirty.⁠
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Continuing to cuddle, kiss, or escalate after someone’s body has gone still-even if they haven’t said “no” out loud.⁠
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In my work as a somatic sex coach, I’ve supported women who realized (with a lot of compassion for themselves) that they had crossed boundaries in the past. Not because they wanted to harm, but because no one ever taught them that their touch also needs consent.⁠
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One client told me: “I thought I was always the safe one… until I noticed how many times I assumed others wanted what I wanted.” That moment of awareness became such a powerful doorway into deeper, more embodied consent.⁠
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Consent is not about gender-it’s about presence, curiosity, and respect. Whether you’re giving or receiving, your role in honoring boundaries is vital.⁠
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Non-monogamous spaces thrive when EVERYONE treats consent as sacred. That’s how we co-create safety, trust, and ultimately, more pleasure.⁠
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👉 Have you ever noticed the subtle ways consent can be crossed, even with the best intentions?⁠
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#ConsentCulture #WomenAndConsent #NonMonogamyEducation #BoundariesMatter #SomaticSexEducation #EmbodiedConsent #EthicalNonMonogamy

When you want to have multiple partners…⁠
but you hate going on first dates 😩💅⁠
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We got you.⁠
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Skip the awkward small talk and dive straight into meaningful, flirty, and actually fun conversations at our YYC Social: Speed Meet⁠
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This isn’t your average speed dating night...it’s a relaxed, inclusive evening designed for Calgary’s non-monogamous, queer, and sex-positive community.⁠
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When: Thursday, November 20 | 7:30–10:30 PM | Downtown Calgary⁠
Meet people. Make connections. Maybe even spark a little chemistry.⁠
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Because who says “first meetings” have to suck?⁠
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This event always fill fast, so don’t wait to snag your spot!⁠
Link in bio for tickets or visit: https://www.sexedforthemodernbed.com/monthly-social⁠
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#YYCSocial #YYCEvents #YYCLifestyle #NonMonogamous #PolyamoryCommunity #KinkyAndKind #SexPositiveYYC #MeetCute #OpenRelationshipGoals #SpeedMeet #ConnectionBeforePlay #YYCNightlife #FlirtyAndFun

Ever been more turned on by a couple’s connection than by just one of them?⁠
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That might mean you’re symbiosexual! Someone who’s drawn to the energy between two (or more) people, not just the individuals themselves.⁠
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I’ve seen this come up so often in non-monogamous spaces and play party settings. Sometimes, clients share stories like, “I wasn’t as into either of them separately… but together, their chemistry was magnetic.”⁠
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As a somatic sex coach, I love exploring this kind of attraction because it often reveals how deeply we respond to relational energy. Our bodies are constantly reading cues of connection, trust, play, and pleasure between others. That aliveness, the shared laughter, the subtle glances, the ease between two people... it can awaken something primal in us.⁠
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And in many ways, this is what somatic awareness teaches us: attraction and arousal don’t exist in isolation. They’re relational experiences. They’re about how our nervous system feels in response to the field between others, not just physical traits.⁠
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So if you’ve ever found yourself captivated by a couple’s vibe, not necessarily wanting to “join in,” but just soaking in their connection, you’re not weird or voyeuristic. You might just be tuning in to a beautiful form of symbiosexuality.⁠
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Curious to explore the nuances of attraction, desire, and energetic connection in your own body? This is the kind of exploration I love guiding clients through!⁠
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#Symbiosexuality #SomaticSexEducation #EroticIntelligence #DesireMapping #NonMonogamy #ConsciousSexuality #SexPositiveEducation #EmbodiedDesire #PleasureIsMedicine

Our Oktoberfest Social was one for the books!⁠
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Between the pretzel bites, spicy bingo, and a sea of smiling faces, it was such a beautiful reminder of what makes this community so special. Forty people showed up; chatting, laughing, flirting, and forming new friendships in that effortless, heart-open way that only happens when everyone feels safe to be themselves.⁠
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And honestly? That’s the magic of the YYC Social. It’s not about play or performance, it’s about connection, curiosity, and belonging.⁠
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Our next event is on Thursday, November 20th: The Speed Meet Edition!⁠
You’ll rotate through short, guided conversations (with the ever-charming James as MC), followed by open mingling and drinks. Think “speed dating,” but for community.⁠
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If you missed Oktoberfest, this is your chance to jump in and experience the magic for yourself.⁠
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No pressure. No play. Just people connecting, laughing, and being human together.⁠
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This event always fill fast, so don’t wait to snag your spot!⁠
Link in bio for tickets or visit: https://www.sexedforthemodernbed.com/monthly-social⁠
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#YYCSocial #YYCLifestyleCommunity #NonMonogamousLife #CalgaryEvents #QueerCommunityYYC #KinkyAndKind #SexPositiveSpaces #ConsentCulture #CommunityOverCompetition #PleasurePositive #YYCLove #OktoberfestVibes #ConnectionMatters

Okay, real talk...where has this blanket been all my life?!?⁠
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You know those nights that start with a little touch, a little teasing… and next thing you know, the bed looks like a scene straight out of a very wet romance novel? Yeah, that’s exactly why I’m in love with the @myloveblanket
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It’s plush, soft, and sexy BUT also practical. Completely waterproof and machine washable, which means no more post-pleasure cleanup or towel towers. Toss it in the wash, pour yourself some water (because hydration is foreplay), and bask in that afterglow. 💦⁠
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But here’s what surprised me most...this blanket isn’t just amazing in my personal life. It’s also become a beautiful addition to my professional practice as a somatic sex educator. Sometimes, clients request touch sessions as part of their healing or embodiment journey, and having a cozy, body-safe, waterproof layer for my table has been a total game changer!⁠
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It keeps the space feeling soft and protected-creating a sense of comfort that’s essential when working with the body.⁠
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Honestly, it’s rare to find a product that fits so seamlessly into both my pleasure life and my professional world!⁠
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You can grab yours at love-blanket.com⁠
and use TAARA10 for 10% off your own.⁠
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#SexPositive #SomaticSexEducation #LoveBlanket #PleasureTools #SexEducatorApproved #CouplesPlay #EmbodiedPleasure #MessyIsSexy

It’s time for one of our most-loved socials to make a comeback!!!⁠
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✨ YYC Social: The Speed Meet Edition ✨⁠
Thursday, November 20 | 7:30 PM | Downtown Calgary⁠
Tickets $20/couple // $15/single⁠
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If you’ve been craving new connections in Calgary’s non-monogamous, queer, and sex-positive communities, this is the one to join.⁠
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Our Speed Meet is part social mixer, part conversation adventure. Think of it like a fast-paced friend-date night where you’ll rotate through 10–12 mini meetups, guided by our incredible MC, James, who keeps things fun, flirty, and full of laughter.⁠
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After the speed meet rounds, stick around for drinks, mingling, and plenty of time to keep the chats (and chemistry) flowing.⁠
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💜 No play, no pressure. Just authentic connection and community.⁠
💌 Bring unopened menstrual products to support our ongoing partnership with the We Are Maud Foundation and their Period Prosperity Campaign.⁠
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This event always fill fast, so don’t wait to snag your spot!⁠
Link in bio for tickets or visit: https://www.sexedforthemodernbed.com/monthly-social⁠
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#YYCSocial #YYCLifestyleCommunity #SexPositiveCalgary #NonMonogamyCalgary #OpenRelationshipCommunity #CalgaryEvents #YYCLove #CommunityConnection #ConsentCulture #WeAreMaud #PleasurePositive #QueerAndConnected

The countdown is ON… our Oktoberfest YYC Social is just TWO DAYS away!⁠
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We’ve got:⁠
🥨 Pretzel bites to snack on⁠
🍺 A free beer for anyone who completes their Spicy Bingo card⁠
🎶 Flirty, fabulous vibes all night long⁠
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This isn’t just about the fun (though there will be LOTS of that!), it’s also about coming together as a sex-positive, non-monogamous, and queer-friendly community where everyone is welcome.⁠
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📅 Thursday, Oct 16⁠
🕢 7:30 PM⁠
📍 Downtown Calgary⁠
💸 $10/person⁠
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We’re almost there, and you won’t want to miss this one. Grab your ticket, find your lederhosen (optional but encouraged), and let’s make it a night to remember!⁠
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Link in bio or visit: https://www.sexedforthemodernbed.com/monthly-social⁠
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#YYCSocial #YYCEvents #OktoberfestYYC #YYCNightlife #YYCCommunity #SexPositiveYYC #NonMonogamyYYC #YYCLove #YYCSocialScene

Mark your calendars! Our next YYC Social is happening Thursday, October 16th and we’re celebrating with an Oktoberfest theme!!! Pretzel bites, spicy bingo, and community connection all night long.⁠
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But beyond the fun, one of the things that makes these socials so special is how this community continues to show up for one another. Since we brought the Socials back, we’ve invited guests to bring unopened menstrual products to support the We Are Maud Foundation’s Period Prosperity campaign...and together we’ve already donated over 50 items!⁠
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Your generosity is making a real impact. Menstrual products aren’t a luxury, they’re a necessity. And thanks to you, more folks in Calgary can access what they need with dignity.⁠
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So join us for pretzels, beers, bingo, and connection on October 16th! And if you’re able, bring along a box of pads, tampons, diva cups or liners to keep the momentum going. Together, we’re building community AND making a difference.⁠
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💜 Prost & see you soon!⁠
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#YYCSocial #OktoberfestYYC #YYCEvents #YYCNightlife #YYCCommunity #SexPositiveYYC #NonMonogamyYYC #YYCLove #YYCSocialScene #YYCSexPositive #PeriodProsperity #EndPeriodPoverty #MenstrualEquity #CommunityCareYYC

We often think of safety in the bedroom as condoms, lube, or consent conversations (and yes, those matter). But safety is also deeply emotional and relational.⁠
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If you don’t feel seen, heard, or understood in your relationship (with lovers, fwb, partners, etc.), your body will have a hard time fully letting go during intimacy. Desire doesn’t thrive in an environment where your nervous system is on edge.⁠
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If your partner often blows up at you, dismisses your opinions, or leaves you carrying the emotional labor at home, your body is likely clocking that stress...even if your mind is telling you to “just relax and enjoy.”⁠
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In my work as a somatic sex educator, I see this all the time. A client once shared how she couldn’t “orgasm on demand” with her partner, no matter how hard she tried. When we unpacked it together, she realized her body didn’t feel safe because she was always walking on eggshells around his temper. Once she named this truth and they started working on relational safety outside the bedroom, her capacity for pleasure transformed.⁠
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Safety isn’t just sexy! It’s necessary for deep intimacy and ecstatic pleasure.⁠
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If this resonates, I invite you to get curious: where in your relationships do you feel most safe, seen, and cared for? And how does that show up in your sexuality?⁠
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Want support building deeper erotic safety? Let’s work together! Check out the link in my bio.⁠
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INFO MEMES created by the brilliant @sexaully_liberated⁠
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#SomaticSexCoach #SafetyAndSexuality #PleasureMapping #RelationshipSafety #EroticEmbodiment #SomaticSexualHealing #ConsentIsSexy

“We used to think we knew each other’s bodies inside and out… until one night, when we slowed down and actually asked.⁠
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What kind of touch feels best here?⁠
Do you want more pressure? Less?⁠
What happens if we linger, instead of rushing to the usual places?⁠
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The answers surprised us. We discovered new spots, new sensations, even new ways of connecting that we’d never thought of after years together.⁠
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That’s what Pleasure Mapping for Couples is all about! Exploring each other with curiosity instead of assumptions. Slowing down, tuning in, and finding the overlooked places that hold so much potential for pleasure and intimacy.⁠
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Julie and I are inviting couples in Calgary to spend 4 playful hours together learning how to turn touch into a language. One that can reignite sparks, deepen intimacy, and create a new roadmap for pleasure.⁠
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Join us for a workshop where you’ll learn practical tools, guided practices, and a whole lot of inspiration to bring back into your own bedroom.”⁠
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📍 Calgary⁠
🗓️ Nov. 22 // 10am-2pm⁠
🔗 Link in bio to save your spot⁠
https://www.sexedforthemodernbed.com/pleasure-maping-workshop⁠
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#YYCCouples #IntimacyWorkshop #PleasureMapping #YYCEvents #ConsciousCouples #SexualWellness #DeepenConnection

One of my favorite moments from our last social was standing back and watching the room...people laughing over karaoke, new friendships sparking at the bar, and that buzzing feeling of being surrounded by folks who just get it.⁠
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That’s the magic of these socials. It’s not just about meeting potential partners (though that happens too 😉), it’s about community, belonging, and having a safe space where you can show up as your whole self.⁠
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This month, we’re leaning into the cozy vibes of Oktoberfest with pints, playful conversations, and (of course) plenty of room for connection. This is the perfect chance to gather, laugh, and remember that intimacy isn’t just about sex - it’s about connection!!!⁠
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📅 When: Thursday, October 16th @ 7:30pm⁠
📍 Where: Downtown YYC⁠
🎉 Theme: Oktoberfest Social!⁠
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Come for the beer & cheer, stay for the friendships and connections!!!⁠
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👉 Tickets are limited, so grab yours now through the link in my bio or visit:⁠
https://www.sexedforthemodernbed.com/monthly-social⁠
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#YYCEvents #NonMonogamousCommunity #SexPositiveCalgary #SocialYYC #ConnectionIsSexy #CommunityVibes #OktoberfestYYC

I had to share these memes because they capture SO much of what comes up in my work with clients (and honestly, in my own life too!).⁠
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✨ Expressing Needs & Setting Boundaries⁠
Most of us were never taught how to say what we want, or how to lovingly hold a boundary. I see this all the time in sessions...clients know what they don’t want, but voicing it feels terrifying. That’s where body-based tools come in: practicing saying “yes,” “no,” or “not right now” while staying connected to your body. Boundaries aren’t walls, they’re doorways into deeper trust and intimacy.⁠
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✨ People-Pleasing vs. Authentic Connection⁠
Like that iceberg meme shows being “the nice one” often hides a whole lot of burnout, resentment, and anxiety beneath the surface. In somatic work, we slow down and listen for what’s truly underneath the people-pleasing. Often, it’s the body whispering: I’m tired. I need rest. I need to feel safe before I can open.⁠
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✨ It’s Okay to Want More⁠
I can’t tell you how many women I’ve worked with who carry shame about being “too much”! Too sexual, too loud, too needy. Here’s the truth: your desire is not a burden. It’s an aliveness that deserves to be celebrated. Owning that you want hot, primal sex and tender, soulful love doesn’t make you contradictory, it makes you whole.⁠
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At the heart of this work is permission: permission to notice your needs, speak them out loud, set boundaries, and claim your full, unapologetic desires.⁠
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Which of these memes hit home for you right now? Drop it in the comments, I’d love to hear.⁠
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#SomaticSexEducation #ConsentIsSexy #BoundariesAreSexy #SexPositiveHealing #PleasureIsMedicine #EmbodyYourDesires

People are always surprised when I say I’m actually pretty shy when it comes to sex and intimacy. (I know hard to believe right? 😉)⁠
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The truth is, even as a somatic sex coach who has been studying, practicing, and teaching this for years, I still sometimes get caught in the push-pull of wanting something deeply… but hesitating to name it out loud.⁠
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“Will it be too much?”⁠
“Will they still like me?”⁠
“What if I ruin the mood?”⁠
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Sound familiar? You’re not alone.⁠
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Here’s what I’ve learned from both my personal journey and working with clients:⁠
💗 Desire is valid even when it feels scary to voice. Being shy doesn’t make your needs any less important.⁠
💗 Your nervous system plays a role. Often, shyness is your body’s way of protecting you until it feels safe enough to expand.⁠
💗 Practice builds confidence. Naming what you want (or don’t want) gets easier each time you do it.⁠
💗 Pleasure thrives on clarity. When you trust, value, and name what you desire, you create the conditions for deeper intimacy, safety, and connection.⁠
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One of my clients recently shared that simply practicing saying, “Can we slow down?” during a session changed everything for them. They realized that even a “small ask” was actually a huge step toward reclaiming their voice and their pleasure.⁠
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So yes, I may still be shy… but I’ve also learned the magic that happens when you lean into naming your truth. Because being a sweetheart and a little freak at the same time? That’s where the real fun begins🔥⁠
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Do you struggle with shyness around asking for what you want in bed? Let’s talk about it in the comments.⁠
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#SomaticSexCoach #NameYourDesires #ShyButSpicy #PleasureConfidence #EmbodiedIntimacy #TraumaInformedSexuality #PleasureHealing #AskForWhatYouWant #SexualEmpowerment #PleasureActivism

Last months Karaoke Social was an absolute BLAST! Thank you to the 50+ amazing humans who showed up last week to sing, dance, and cheer each other on...you made it unforgettable!!!⁠
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And guess what? We’re not slowing down…⁠
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👉 The next YYC Social is Thursday, October 16th: Oktoberfest Edition!⁠
We’re gathering in downtown Calgary for a night full of connection, laughs, and a few Oktoberfest-inspired twists.⁠
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Here’s what you can look forward to:⁠
🥨 Complimentary pretzel bites to snack on⁠
🍻 Spicy Bingo – complete your card & win a free beer!⁠
👗 Dress-up fun (lederhosen & dirndl optional, but encouraged!)⁠
✨ A welcoming, no-pressure space to mingle & meet new friends⁠
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If you loved the energy of karaoke night, you won’t want to miss this one. Mark your calendar now! It’s going to be a night to remember!⁠
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Link in bio to join or visit: https://www.sexedforthemodernbed.com/monthly-social⁠
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#YYCSocials #YYCEvents #YYCNightOut #YYCCommunity #YYCConnections #YYCMeetup #YYCSocialLife #OktoberfestYYC #SpicyBingo #PretzelsAndBeer #YYCOktoberfest #YYCFun #YYCDrinks #SexPositiveYYC #NonMonogamyCommunity #QueerYYC #YYCLove #YYCInclusive #MarkYourCalendars #YYCThingsToDo #YYCWhatsHappening #YYCSocialScene #YYCLiveItUp

Did you know that nipple and breast stimulation activates the same part of the brain as g3nital stimulation? Research using MRI technology shows what so many women already know: breast and chest touch isn’t just “foreplay”! It can be a pathway to deep arousal and even orgasm.⁠
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When I first experienced a breast/chest massage during my Somatic Sex Educator training, it completely shifted how I related to this part of my body. Instead of the rushed, rough, or performative touch I had been used to, I felt slow, intentional contact... and with it came empowerment, emotional release, and a new sense of freedom in my pleasure.⁠
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Here’s what I often see with clients:⁠
💗 Reconnecting with Sensation: Many people have learned to disconnect from their breasts because of rough handling, shame, or feeling self-conscious about size, shape, or appearance.⁠
💗 Healing the Heart Center: The breasts can be seen as gateways to love and intimacy. Gentle, loving touch here can open emotional and sexual pathways that have been shut down from past hurts.⁠
💗 Rewiring the Nervous System: Through consistent, safe, and attuned touch, the nervous system learns that receiving pleasure here is safe, which can increase overall arousal and expand capacity for orgasm.⁠
💗 Non-Demand Touch: When touch is given without the expectation of sex, it creates space for the body to soften, trust, and awaken.⁠
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One of my clients recently shared that after practicing breast massage for a few weeks, she noticed not only more sensation but also less anxiety about being seen naked by her partner. That’s the power of slowing down and giving this part of the body loving attention.⁠
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So, I invite you to consider: What might open for you if you explored this type of touch. Not as something you “should” do, but as an act of self-love, healing, and deep pleasure?⁠
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💌 Curious about how to begin? Send me a DM and let’s talk about how this practice can be part of your journey back to your body.⁠
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#SomaticSexEducation #PleasureHealing #BreastMassage #EmbodiedIntimacy #TraumaInformed #ReclaimYourPleasure #HolisticSexuality #TantraInspired #SelfLoveJourney #PleasureIsHealing #SexualEmpowerment

The Countdown is ON!!!!⁠
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The Karaoke Takeover is happening TOMORROW, and trust us you don’t want to miss this one! ⁠
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📅 Date: Thursday, Sept. 18, 2025 ⁠
📍 Location: Downtown, Calgary (Address provided after payment) ⁠
💸 Cover: $10/person⁠
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RSVP now before it’s too late! Once we’re full, we’re full!⁠
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🎟️ TICKETS: $10/person⁠
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Let’s Talk About Playrooms…⁠
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Over the years of coaching, I’ve had countless clients tell me how curious (and sometimes nervous) they felt walking into their first playroom. Whether it was at a lifestyle club, hotel takeover, or even an all-inclusive resort where play is part of the fun. These spaces can feel exciting, liberating, and also a little intimidating.⁠
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No matter how sexy or playful the space, there are a few “Golden Rules” to keep in your back pocket:⁠
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Ask First, Always.⁠
Asking before touching, joining in, or even commenting creates trust and safety. Many of my clients practice this outside the bedroom too, in small everyday moments, so it feels natural when the stakes are higher.⁠
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No = No.⁠
Simple. Clear. Firm. Honoring a “no” without pushback is one of the most respectful and sexiest things you can do.⁠
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Respect the Scene.⁠
Imagine walking into a space where a couple (or group) is fully in their flow. Jumping in without consent disrupts not just the people involved, but the entire energetic container. Wait, ask, and approach with reverence.⁠
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Observe with Care.⁠
Watching can be delicious BUT there’s a way to do it without intruding. Using soft eyes, soft/no commentary, not hovering too close. Think of it as giving space for their energy to breathe.⁠
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Even after more than a decade exploring these communities myself, I still come back to these basics. And when I support clients navigating playrooms, it’s often not about the logistics, it’s about finding the courage to notice, value, and voice what they want (or don’t want). That takes practice, and it’s okay to still feel shy sometimes.⁠
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So, if you’re curious about stepping into your first playroom (or if you’ve been in many) I invite you to carry these ideas with you.⁠
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Are you curious about navigating playrooms or lifestyle spaces with confidence? This is one of my favorite things to support clients with!⁠
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#PlayroomEtiquette #ConsentIsSexy #SexPositiveSpaces #EthicalNonmonogamy #SomaticSexCoach #RelationshipExploration #SexualEmpowerment

When I first started exploring my sexual orientation and identity, I thought I had to have it all figured out before I could talk about it. I thought if I couldn’t explain exactly “what” I was, then I wasn’t valid.⁠
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Spoiler: that’s a lie cisheteronormativity sells us.⁠
You don’t have to prove your sexuality by sharing dating history, having a certain type of partner, or being “out” in the exact way people expect.⁠
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As a somatic sex coach, I’ve learned (and lived) that:⁠
💡 Sexual orientation, gender identity, and gender expression are different things.⁠
💡 Polyamory, queerness, and fluid identities often intersect. And yes, these communities face unique layers of marginalization.⁠
💡 Bisexuality & pansexuality are valid no matter who you’ve dated or slept with.⁠
💡 Sexuality is fluid, and that fluidity is part of the beauty of being human.⁠
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Even though I’ve been studying, teaching, and practicing this work for YEARS, I still have moments of shyness when naming what I want (or don’t want). But I feel in my body how important it is to notice, trust, value, and voice those truth...seven if they shift over time.⁠
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So here’s your reminder: You are allowed to be fluid. You are allowed to change. You are allowed to take your time. And you are allowed to exist exactly as you are without explanation.⁠
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#Pansexual #Polyamory #BisexualVisibility #QueerAndPoly #Nonmonogamy #SexualFluidity #SomaticSexCoach #TraumaInformed #QueerEducation #LGBTQCommunity #SexualityIsFluid #PansexualPride #BodyLedLiving #ShyAndFreaky

We all know that person who grabs the mic and turns karaoke night into their personal concert(…and if you’re thinking “I am that person,” we definitely want you there😉)⁠
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If you’re a seasoned stage diva, a shy shower singer, or just here for the laughs and good vibes our Karaoke Takeover is the perfect chance to kick back, connect, and make some unforgettable memories with the community.⁠
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📅 When: Thursday September 18th⁠
📍 Where: Downtown Karaoke Bar, Calgary⁠
⏰ Time: 7–9pm FULL takeover⁠
💲 Entry: $10⁠
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Now here’s the real question… what song should I sing when I get up there?⁠
Drop your go-to karaoke anthem in the comments or tag a friend who needs to join us!⁠
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Tickets: $10/person⁠
👉 https://www.sexedforthemodernbed.com/monthly-social⁠
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Here’s the thing about STIs that most people don’t realize:⁠
The most common symptom… is no symptom at all.⁠
So when someone says, “I don’t need to test because I’m clean,” my whole body goes ...”EW, no.”⁠
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The truth? Being “clean” isn’t a status...it’s a shame-soaked word that suggests anyone with an STI is “dirty.” And that couldn’t be further from the truth.⁠
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As a somatic sex coach, I support people in unpacking the shame and stigma around sexual health conversations. Because language like this not only spreads misinformation, it keeps us small, fearful, and disconnected from our pleasure.⁠
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Here’s what I teach clients when we talk about sexual health and intimacy:⁠
✨ Replace “I’m clean” with: “I was last tested on [date], and my results were [status].”⁠
✨ Remember that testing isn’t a one-time thing; it’s ongoing care for yourself and your partners.⁠
✨ Talking openly about STIs builds trust, safety, and deeper intimacy. Things our nervous systems crave in order to fully relax into pleasure.⁠
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One of my clients once told me that practicing these conversations out loud (yes, we role-played!) made them feel more empowered and less anxious before dates. Instead of worrying about rejection, they felt grounded in self-respect and able to show up authentically.⁠
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Pleasure grows when safety and honesty are at the center. So if it’s been a while since you last tested, maybe this is your sign!⁠
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#STIAwareness #ShameFreeSex #SomaticSexCoach #SexualHealthMatters #ConsentCulture #PleasureAndSafety #NonMonogamyEducation #SexPositiveEducation #PleasureActivism #EmpoweredIntimacy

“So… is this a play party?”⁠
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It’s a question I get all the time. And the answer (at least for our Socials) is no.⁠
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When we first started hosting these events, we noticed something: many people in the non-monogamous and sex-positive communities wanted a place to connect without the pressure to play. A place where you could just be yourself—chat, laugh, flirt, and make connections at your own pace.⁠
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That’s why we host non-play Socials. They’re about building trust, friendships, and community first. They’re where nervous first-timers can take a deep breath and feel welcome. They’re where long-timers can expand their circles and support others on their journey.⁠
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💜 No pressure.⁠
💜 No expectations.⁠
💜 Just authentic connection and good vibes.⁠
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Because at the end of the day, it’s those real, human connections that make everything else possible.⁠
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Our next chance to connect this way? 👉 September 18th at Bacchus Karaoke Bar. Grab your ticket, grab the mic, and come see why these Socials are quickly becoming the heart of Calgary’s CNM & sex-positive community.⁠
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Tickets: $10/person⁠
👉 https://www.sexedforthemodernbed.com/monthly-social⁠
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When we talk about boundaries, most people think of hard no’s or physical lines in the sand, but there’s actually so much more nuance when it comes to intimacy, desire, and connection.⁠
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In the Wheel of Consent framework, we talk about Domain, Boundaries, and Limits:⁠
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🌿 Domain → What is mine. My body, my feelings, my desires, my inner world. I have a right to them and a responsibility for them.⁠
🌿 Boundary → The edge of that domain. The line where what’s mine ends and what’s not mine begins.⁠
🌿 Limits → What I am available for in this moment. These can change depending on the situation, the person, and even how much sleep I got last night.⁠
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Here’s where it gets tricky (and where so many clients of mine get stuck):⁠
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⚡ When someone tries to cross into our domain emotionally.⁠
👉 Example: You feel a certain way about someone OR a situation, and instead of owning your own feelings, you try to make other people feel that way too.⁠
👉 Or someone has a desire they’re afraid to own, so they pressure (or desire smuggle) you to want it instead of saying it out loud.⁠
👉 Or maybe you’re enjoying yourself and your partner suddenly shuts down your joy because they feel uncomfortable with it.⁠
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These are subtle, but they’re still boundary crossings.⁠
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What I remind my clients is:⁠
💌 You are not responsible for carrying someone else’s feelings or desires.⁠
💌 You do have the right to say no, and you also have the responsibility to say no when something isn’t right for you.⁠
💌 Anger can be a healthy signal that a boundary has been crossed. It’s not something to be ashamed of, but rather a tool that helps protect your domain.⁠
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Remember: the stronger your sense of your own domain, the easier it is to communicate your limits clearly, with love. And the more you can show up authentically for yourself and others.⁠
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💬 I’d love to hear — have you ever noticed someone trying to put their feelings or desires in your domain? How did it feel?⁠
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#WheelOfConsent #BoundariesMatter #SomaticSexEducation #ConsentCulture #HealthyBoundaries #SexualEmpowerment #EmbodiedLiving #PleasureActivism #AuthenticConnection #RelationshipGrowth

I came across this post recently (shared above) and it really hit home.⁠
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“Clique-building is easy… But true community requires deep humility, patience, and the willingness to be in the messy, non-linear process of transformation.”⁠
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This is exactly why we host YYC Socials the way we do.⁠
These aren’t play parties. They’re not about exclusivity or proving you belong. They’re about creating an open, welcoming space where people in Calgary’s non-monogamous, queer, and sex-positive communities can connect authentically WITHOUT pressure.⁠
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💜 No cliques.⁠
💜 No gatekeeping.⁠
💜 Just real conversations, laughter, and the beginnings of friendships (and sometimes more).⁠
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Because true community isn’t built by accident: it’s grown, nurtured, and cared for.⁠
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Our next chance to gather this way? 👉 September 18th at Bacchus Karaoke Bar!!! A full venue takeover with music, laughter, and the kind of energy that reminds you why you showed up in the first place.⁠
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Tickets: $10/person⁠
👉 https://www.sexedforthemodernbed.com/monthly-social⁠
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So many of us spend years feeling disconnected from our own pleasure—caught in cycles of shame, people-pleasing, numbness, or anxiety about sex. I know I did. And learning to come home to my body changed everything.⁠
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That’s the magic of Somatic Sex Education and Sexological Bodywork—modalities rooted in the belief that your body knows. These aren’t quick-fix tips or one-size-fits-all techniques. They’re personalized, consent-based, and trauma-informed practices that support you in rediscovering your body as a source of pleasure, power, and presence.⁠
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Here’s what this might look like in practice:⁠
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💗 A woman reconnects with her vulva after years of avoidance and finds she can feel pleasure again.⁠
🔥 A couple maps each other’s erogenous zones and discovers entirely new ways to touch and be touched.⁠
🌬️ A single client breathes through body shame while learning to say “yes” and “no” with clarity—and means it.⁠
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Because when we stop overriding our bodies and start listening—real change happens.⁠
Your pleasure expands. Your capacity deepens. And your relationship with your sexuality becomes rooted in truth, not obligation.⁠
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Somatic sex work supports you in...⁠
✅ Releasing shame and trauma stored in the body⁠
✅ Learning to feel safe receiving pleasure⁠
✅ Rewiring your nervous system to expand your capacity for sensation and intimacy⁠
✅ Exploring desire, boundaries, and consent in embodied ways⁠
✅ Building body confidence and sexual self-trust⁠
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If you’re feeling the pull to reconnect with your sensual, powerful self—this work is a gentle (and potent) place to begin. I’d be honored to support your journey.⁠
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Send me a message or check the link in my bio to learn more about how we can work together.⁠
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Let’s talk about threesomes! YES, they can be hot, thrilling, and deeply connective…but also, whew, can they ever surface some real stuff.

I’ve worked with many individuals and couples who were surprised by what came up after their first (or third) threesome. One moment you’re in the middle of a sexy fantasy, and the next, you’re feeling a wave of jealousy, disconnection, insecurity, or shame that you didn’t expect.

What we don’t see in p0rn are the awkward moments, the breaks, the emotions, or the micro-boundaries that are negotiated before, during, and after. In my own life (and in my somatic coaching practice), I’ve learned that threesomes require much more than a “yes” and a bottle of lube.

Here’s what I always remind my clients:

There will be an odd one out. So what does that person do while the other two are connecting? Some sexy options: Masturbating as you watch (yes, be your own erotic show!), Playing “director” and snapping some artistic, consensual photos, Cuddling, caressing, or energetically weaving in from the sidelines before jumping back in
(And of course, all of this needs to be talked about beforehand.)

Breaks are normal. Just because all bodies are in the bed doesn’t mean all bodies have to be “doing” something all the time. Sometimes the hottest part of a threesome is lying there in a messy, sweaty tangle and giggling together for a few minutes.

Safety is hot. Condoms between partners, fresh gloves or finger cots if you’re switching between genitals, and wipes or a trip to the bathroom mid-scene are all acts of respect. You’ll likely go through more condoms than you think (Costco, anyone?) and that’s a good thing.

If you’re curious about group play but unsure how to navigate the emotional (and practical) terrain, I’ve got you. Whether you’re already dabbling or just starting to explore the idea, you don’t have to do it alone.

Send me a DM or book a discovery call to learn more about how I support folks navigating non-monogamy!

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Our next YYC Social is happening Thursday, Sept 18th and we’ve got an entire Karaoke Bar downtown Calgary all to ourselves!!!⁠
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If you’re a shower singer, a stage star, or just wanna cheer folks on, this is your chance to connect with Calgary’s non-monogamous, queer, and sex-positive community in a playful, no-pressure environment.⁠
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Here’s what you can expect:⁠
🎶 A full private takeover of downtown Calgary Karaoke Bar⁠
🍹 Drinks + food available for purchase at the bar⁠
🎤 All the karaoke your heart desires: solos, duets, and group jams welcome!⁠
💜 A safe, welcoming space to laugh, connect & make new friends⁠
📦 Community Giving: Donations for the We Are Maud Foundation appreciated⁠
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Tickets: $10/person⁠
👉 https://www.sexedforthemodernbed.com/monthly-social⁠
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Don’t wait to snag your ticket! 🎟️⁠
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Let’s fill the night with music, laughter, and that special YYC Social magic. See you September 18th!⁠
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Kink isn’t just about playtime or “spicing things up” in the bedroom — for many of us, it’s a powerful avenue for self-discovery, emotional release, and somatic healing.

As a somatic sex coach, I’ve supported individuals and couples who come to kink with curiosity — or with shame — and are surprised to find that within the taboo lies tremendous truth.

Sometimes through power dynamics that we reclaim control we once lost.
Sometimes through pain or surrender that we access long-buried grief or pleasure.
Sometimes the simple act of being seen in our desires that unravels years of internalized shame.

When approached with care, boundaries, and consent, kink becomes more than play — it becomes a ceremony, a release, a reclamation.

Here are a few things to keep in mind if you’re new to kink or exploring it with a partner:

✔️ Negotiate before play. Talk about desires, boundaries, and limits before anything begins. Don’t “up-negotiate” in the middle of a scene.
✔️ Start small. You don’t need to go full dungeon on day one. A silk scarf, a blindfold, or playful spanking can be incredibly potent. Explore, then invest.
✔️ Check in during play. Even if you’ve negotiated ahead of time, checking in (“Does this still feel good?”) keeps things safe and connected.
✔️ Use a safeword. In kink, “No” might be part of the roleplay. A safeword (like “meatloaf” or “red”) gives everyone a clear, immediate stop signal. Use it freely and without shame.
✔️ Aftercare matters. Don’t skip the cuddles, water, or emotional check-ins post-scene. Nervous systems can be highly activated — aftercare is what brings you back together.

A somatic, trauma-informed lens can make your experience safer, richer, and more healing than you ever imagined. Curious? Book a session...

Shoutout to @sexually_liberated for these awesome infographics!

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All my outfits of Shambhala!!! I love rave culture and the creativity you have to express yourself and adorn yourself however you desire (literally saw someone walking around neked with a watermelon as a hat).

#shambhala #shambhala2025 #shambhala_mf #shambhalalife #raveoutfits

Shambhala 2025: what an incredible time we had! I’ll admit, I was a little worried about what to expect. I haven’t been to Sham in THIRTEEN YEARS! It was hubbys first time going. AND we only knew 2 people in the 25+ person camp🤪 But we did it and WOW!

The music, the stages, the vibe, the creativity, the land holding the event, the staff and volunteers- mind blowing.

If you ever thought about going, let this be your sign! We hope to go back next year 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼

#shambhala #shambhala2025 #shambhalamusicfestival #shambhalamf #shambhalalife #shambhalalove

Healing my relationship with my sexuality didn’t take me away from my desires — it brought me so much closer to them.⁠
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During my Somatic Sex Educator certification, I thought I was just going to become a better coach. (I did.) But I also cracked open an entire new world inside myself — one full of messy, sacred, juicy truths about my eroticism.⁠
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Here’s what I discovered:⁠
🔥 Eye contact in missionary? Absolutely floods me.⁠
🔥 Forearm kink? Didn’t know I had one!⁠
🔥 Slow makeout sessions? Holy nervous system reset.⁠
🔥 Praise kink? “That’s my good girl” sends me into orbit.⁠
🔥 Tied up and edged until I whimper? Yes. Please. More.⁠
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And none of that makes me less spiritual, loving, or whole.⁠
I’m not any less compassionate because I’m also kinky. I’m not less tender because I love primal, slutty, hungry sex. ⁠
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In somatic work, I learned to stop performing and start feeling.⁠
To follow my body instead of scripts.⁠
To melt shame and build trust.⁠
To reclaim pleasure on my own terms.⁠
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This is the kind of work I do with clients. We strip away the “shoulds” and start getting curious about what actually turns you on — and why. It’s deeply healing, often hilarious, and wildly freeing.⁠
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Ready to explore what’s waiting in your erotic landscape? 🧠💦 Let’s talk. DMs are open or book a session through the link in bio.⁠
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You’re not too much. You’re just turned on.⁠ 🖤⁠
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Stampede 2025 - we survived!

I absolutely LOVE how lively the city gets during Stampede! And we certainly took advantage of all the fun to be had! Sexy parties, rodeo, badlands tent, family time…it was so fun and so fulfilling!

Until next year 🤠

Before my somatic sex education training, I didn’t even realize how performative my sex life had become.⁠
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I thought I was empowered because I was open-minded, adventurous, and communicative. But under the surface, I was stuck in a loop of doing what I thought was sexy instead of feeling what was actually pleasurable.⁠
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Performative-based sex was all I’d ever known and it left me wondering why I still felt disconnected, even when the sex was “good.”⁠
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When I started learning about nervous system regulation, trauma-informed practices, and pleasure-based touch, everything changed. My pleasure deepened. My relationships softened. I found myself more open, more expressive, more attuned to what I wanted...and more willing to receive it.⁠
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And here’s the part that blew my mind as a somatic sex educator:⁠
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We’re not just “learning new things” — we’re literally rewiring our brains.⁠
When we practice staying present during sex, following sensation, or asking for something we desire (even when our voice shakes), we’re building entirely new neural pathways.⁠
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Of course it feels awkward or scary sometimes.⁠
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In my practice, I support clients in slowing way down so they can start to feel again.⁠
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This work changed everything for me. And it’s the greatest joy of my life to support others in discovering this version of sexuality. One that is rooted in your body’s truth, not a script you’ve memorized.⁠
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If you’re ready to shift from performative sex to embodied pleasure... I see you. You’re not alone. And you’re not broken.⁠
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DM me to learn more about working together.⁠
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Let’s talk about sexual preference and how often it’s not actually about pleasure at all.

I work with so many clients who are working through body shame, self-image, and the fear of being “unfuckable” in a world that conditions us to desire only one very specific type of body, gender, or aesthetic.

And you know what breaks my heart?
When I post behind-the-scenes content from our lifestyle trips and I get DMs like:
“I wish we could come, but I don’t look like that.”
“My partner wants to join, but I’m too curvy / too skinny / too scarred / too old…”
“I wouldn’t feel sexy enough to be chosen.”

Oof. That shame runs deep. And it’s not just internal...it’s cultural.

When we teach ourselves to only have sex with people who look like our clone, or who meet a certain “hot” standard approved by friends, porn, or social media, we’re actually limiting the depth and scope of our erotic selves.

We end up chasing validation instead of pleasure.
We lose access to curiosity, novelty, and embodied connection.
We confuse “chemistry” with status.
We stop experimenting.
And in the process, we end up objectifying others and ourselves.

As a somatic sex coach, I’ve witnessed what happens when people let that conditioning go.

-I’ve seen clients sob with relief when they realize they don’t have to be thinner, smoother, younger, or more “masculine” to be deeply wanted.
-I’ve seen play parties become healing spaces when ALL bodies are celebrated as valid, hot, and powerful.

Because when you’re in your body, fully present, tuned into sensation and emotion... attraction becomes about so much more than looks.

Confidence. Safety. Curiosity. Eye contact. Voice. Smell. Vibe.
Those things are sexy. They’re visceral.

You are allowed to take up space in the erotic world exactly as you are.
You are worthy of pleasure no matter what your body looks like today.

And if you’re craving spaces that embrace this kind of authenticity and permission…you’re not alone.

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8 nights, 9 days, 3 golf courses & campgrounds, 5 pool afternoons, 1 birthday party, and 806 kms 😮‍💨

This was one badass trip! And we had soooo much fun!!!

Our first stop was Fernie RV Resort. We stayed only 2 nights, and golfed at Fernie Golf Course. The weather that morning wasn’t great, so we got to go out as a pair and a few hours in, the sun was out! We lucked out with an awesome campsite and had stunning views.

The second stop was St Eugene near Cranbrook, where we stayed 3 nights! We had fun at the pool and casino and had a super fun round of golf with a retired resident who worked there part time! She was so fun and offered us weed gummies🤪 That course was beautiful! And the campground had all the amenities of the resort. We went into cranbrook one evening to meet with some friends and got a round of bowling in too!

Our third and final stop was another 3 nights at Fairmont RV resort. Unfortunately, when I booked this campsite, I wasn’t aware that it backed onto the only playground at the campground! As it was a long weekend, there were lots of kids around us😅 There was SO MUCH to do at this campground, so we weren’t at our campsite too much-which was nice. We also had some friends who lived there so we spent some time at their house too. We went to the Hot Springs three times, and found the secret natural runoff ones and brought Hank down there a few times to hang out under the waterfall!

Overall, this was such a fabulous trip together, and we made so many wonderful memories! I’m looking forward to making this an annual trip.

Feeling grounded and rejuvenated after an incredible week in Victoria! I had the amazing opportunity to assist the teaching team at the CC2 intensive for students of the Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education. While I usually handle the admin and enrollments, stepping into this role as an assistant was a transformative experience, and I’m so grateful I said yes!

I got to laugh, connect and teach alongside Kai Cheng and captain and these folks are soooo freaking smart and talented at what they do. It was so inspiring🥰

Although the schedule was packed and there wasn’t much downtime, I still got an chance to connect with so many SSEs on the west coast ❤️🥰❤️ Each moment shone a light on my passion for this work and the vibrant community I’m fortunate to be a part of.

Here’s to the incredible people we meet, the experiences we share, and the journeys that ignite our spirits!

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#SomaticSexEducation #Community #Gratitude #Transformation

“I almost didn’t go.”⁠
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That’s what someone said to me after one of our recent YYC Socials.⁠
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“I was nervous. I didn’t know anyone. I wasn’t sure if I’d belong.”⁠
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But they showed up anyway. They walked in, got a drink, played a few rounds of pinball, and ended up talking for hours with a couple who shared their same weird love for horror movies and tarot cards.⁠
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“I’m so glad I went!!! I felt seen. And I didn’t feel alone.”⁠
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THIS is why these socials exist. Not everyone wants to jump straight into a play party or a club. Some of us want to ease in, to get to know people, to find our people.⁠
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Some of us just want to feel like we’re part of something.⁠
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The YYC Socials are non-play, inclusive, and welcoming events where being curious is enough. You don’t have to have it all figured out. You don’t have to be partnered. You don’t have to fit a certain look or vibe.⁠
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You just have to show up.⁠
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Our next one is happening June 19 at Ménage—a private, beautiful venue you can explore in a no-pressure environment. Come see what it’s all about, meet the community, and maybe find your new favorite humans.⁠
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🎟️ Grab your ticket ⁠https://nulifestyle.club/events/160⁠
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You never know what can happen when you say yes.⁠
We’d love to see you there. 🖤⁠
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#YYCSocial #NonMonogamyYYC #QueerAndCurious #SexPositiveCalgary #LifestyleCommunityYYC #NoPressureJustVibes #WhyWeGather #RelatableStories #RealConnection

A few years ago, someone at one of our socials said something that stuck with me:⁠
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“This is the first time I’ve been able to show up as my full self in a room where I didn’t have to perform or prove anything. I feel so much more relaxed to make connections!!!”⁠
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That moment is exactly why we keep creating these kinds of spaces.⁠
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Non-play events are often the missing link in non monogamy and the lifestyle. So many folks want connection, community, and a sense of belonging BUT feel overwhelmed jumping straight into play spaces, especially if they’re new, solo, queer, BIPOC, or neurospicy!⁠
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That’s why the YYC Socials exist. These are low-pressure, social-first events where you can sip a drink, share a laugh, flirt if you want to. AND also just sit in a corner and talk about your favorite reality show with someone who gets you.⁠
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There’s no expectation of sex, no vetting, no dress code, and no need to perform. Just vibes, connection, and space to be real.⁠
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So if you’ve ever thought, “I want to dip a toe into this world, but I’m nervous,” this is your invitation.⁠
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If you’ve ever thought, “I wish I could meet cool, open-minded people without feeling on display,” this is your space.⁠
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Our next social is June 19 at Ménage—a rare chance to explore a private venue without play pressure.⁠
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🎟️ Get tickets: ⁠https://nulifestyle.club/events/160⁠
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Come as you are. We’ll meet you there. 🖤⁠
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#YYCSocial #WhyWeDoThis #NonMonogamyCommunity #LifestyleEventsYYC #SexPositiveCalgary #QueerCommunityYYC #NoPressureJustVibes #YYCLifestyle

Our first camping trip of the season before my birthday was so much fun!!!

Being in nature helps to activate my parasympathetic nervous system. It’s so soothing and helps me slow down… and I definitely needed that before the very hot birthday plans I had in store 🥵

So... what is a Somatic Sex Educator anyway?⁠
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When people hear what I do, they often think it’s about fixing sexual “problems” or teaching people to “perform” better in bed. But somatic sex education is deeper and more transformative than that.⁠
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It’s not about fitting yourself into society’s narrow ideas of what sex should look like — it’s about honoring your lived experience, your body’s wisdom, and the way you want to feel in intimacy, pleasure, and connection.⁠
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I once worked with a client who came to me in tears, believing something was “wrong” with them because they didn’t enjoy penetrative sex. They’d spent years trying medications, therapy, and feeling broken.⁠
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Through gentle somatic practices, body awareness exercises, and deep conversation, they discovered that their arousal was wired through different pathways — and that pleasure didn’t have to be performative.⁠
They didn’t need to be “fixed.” They just needed permission to trust their body.⁠
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Many of my clients come in with goals like:⁠
✨ Healing from sexual trauma or body betrayal⁠
✨ Reconnecting with desire after years of numbness or avoidance⁠
✨ Making sense of non-monogamy, kink, or relationship diversity⁠
✨ Wanting more presence, more pleasure, more truth in their sex life⁠
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Yes, we can talk anatomy, arousal, and techniques. But we also hold space for grief, celebration, nervous system regulation, and the joy of reclaiming your body on your terms.⁠
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We move at the speed of trust.⁠
We listen to what your body has to say.⁠
We challenge the cultural messages that have told you who you should be.⁠
And we ask: What if you’re already whole?⁠
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If you’re curious about working together, I offer discovery calls to explore what somatic sex education could look like for you.⁠
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#SomaticSexEducation #BodyWisdom #PleasureHealing #TraumaInformedCare #SexualHealing #BeyondNormal #SexPositive #AuthenticPleasure #ConsentCulture #GenderExploration #NonMonogamySupport #QueerHealing #NervousSystemAwareness #ReclaimPleasure #SexualEmpowerment #ShameFreeSexuality #CounterNormativeSexEd #RadicalSelfLove

For the longest time, I thought I had to be available for sex—to give, to perform, to provide access. I had a high sex drive, I craved intimacy, and I loved being desired. But something was missing. I was chasing eroticism, but I wasn’t fully in it. ⁠
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I wasn’t centered in my own pleasure.⁠
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I was so focused on being wanted that I forgot to ask myself what I truly wanted. I knew I was a deeply erotic person, but I wasn’t embodied in it. My sexuality was outward-facing—about what I could give, about how I could please. And that left me feeling frustrated, disconnected, and honestly… a little empty. ⁠
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It wasn’t until I started showing up for myself—prioritizing *my* pleasure, my body, my sensations—that everything changed. ⁠
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✨ I stopped waiting for my sex life to improve and took ownership of it. ⁠
✨ I stopped seeing my eroticism as something to be given and started experiencing it as something to be felt. ⁠
✨ I stopped performing and started receiving—deeply, fully, without guilt. ⁠
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Now? I am in my slut era—but it’s really just me rewiring my neural pathways to experience eroticism in a way that nourishes me first. Because a deeply fulfilling sex life isn’t about having more of the same unsatisfying sex and hoping something change*—it’s about showing up differently, being present, and reclaiming your pleasure as yours. ⁠
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If this resonates, this is exactly the work I do with my clients. I help women move from disconnection to deep, embodied pleasure—to feel their eroticism fully, to stop just giving and start receiving. If you’re ready to shift your relationship with sex, desire, and pleasure, let’s chat. 💋✨ ⁠
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DM me or book a session (link in bio). Let’s make your pleasure yours again. ⁠
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PIC CREDS: @drcatmeyer @sexpositive.memes @bellsaco @sexually_liberated @thefemmemoon⁠
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#EroticEmbodiment #PleasureFirst #SlutEra #SomaticSexCoach #ReclaimYourDesire #HornyAndHealing #EmbodiedEroticism #PleasureIsPower #RadicalSelfLove #SexualLiberation

Calgary’s sex-positive, non-monogamous, and queer-friendly crowd — this one’s for you!⁠
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We’re taking over an Arcade Brewery on May 22 for a full-venue private Social, and you’re invited to join the fun.⁠
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Whether you’re new to the scene or a familiar face, the YYC Social is your chance to mingle in a pressure-free space with flirty games, good vibes, and even better company.⁠
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🎮 Retro arcade games + pinball⁠
🍻 Great drinks on tap⁠
✨ A few tokens on us, thanks to @nulifestyle⁠
🧡 A chance to support @wearemaudfoundation with donations of period products⁠
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🎟️ TICKETS: $10/person⁠
Now powered by NU Lifestyle! No paid membership needed—just make a free account to register:⁠
👉 nulifestyle.club/events/134⁠
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Let’s fill the night with laughter, connection, and that special YYC magic. Can’t wait to see you there!⁠
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#YYCSocial #SexPositiveCalgary #NonMonogamyEvents #QueerYYC #YYCNightlife #LifestyleCommunity #YYCLove #BurnBlockTakeover⁠
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In the past, I felt like I was stuck when it came to my sexuality. I wanted to feel more, to experience sex in a way that made me feel fully alive, but instead, I often found myself disconnected, over-giving, and unable to fully receive pleasure.⁠
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What I didn’t realize at the time was that my nervous system had a limited capacity for pleasure. I had spent years internalizing conditioning that told me to prioritize others, suppress my needs, and perform rather than fully be in my pleasure. My body had adapted to this—learning to shut down, numb out, or stay small rather than open up and expand. ⁠
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This is what happens when your window of tolerance for pleasure is small. Your body stays in patterns of contraction, self-doubt, or exhaustion. It’s not that you don’t want more eroticism, more sensation, more orgasms—it’s that your system literally doesn’t feel safe receiving them. ⁠
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So what changed for me? ⁠
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I started doing the deep work of reprogramming my nervous system—expanding my capacity to hold pleasure, love, and intimacy. And through this work, I realized: ⁠
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✨ Pleasure isn’t just about technique; it’s about safety.⁠
✨ The body can only receive as much as it feels safe holding⁠
✨ When we build capacity, we expand into more sensation, more desire, and more orgasmic potential.⁠
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The key to mind-blowing, deeply fulfilling sex isn’t just trying harder—it’s learning how to feel safer being vulnerable, seen, and fully expressed. ⁠
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If you’re feeling stuck in your pleasure or unsure why sex isn’t as fulfilling as you want it to be, this is your invitation to explore what’s happening beneath the surface. Let’s expand your capacity for pleasure together! ⁠
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Drop a 🔥 in the comments if this resonates or DM me to learn how I can support you in this journey. ⁠
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INFO CREDIT FOR PICS: @sexually_liberated⁠
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#PleasureCapacity #NervousSystemHealing #SomaticSexCoach #ExpandYourPleasure #EroticEmbodiment #SensualHealing #ReclaimYourDesire #WindowOfTolerance #PleasureIsYourBirthright

At first, it might be about the spice🌶️… ⁠
But we stay for the squad💕⁠
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Non-monogamy isn’t just about sex—for a lot of people it’s about friendship, community, late-night laughs, deep convos, and finding your people. Whether you’re solo, partnered, poly-saturated or somewhere in between, there’s nothing quite like being surrounded by folks who get it.⁠
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Looking for your own little queer, kinky, connection-loving chosen fam in YYC?⁠
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Come to the next Social on May 22 at Burn Block Brewery!!!⁠
We’ve got the vibes, the games, and the community you’ve been craving.⁠
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🎟 Tickets: https://nulifestyle.club/?ref=sex.uninterrupted⁠
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Let’s Talk About Pegging & A**al 🍑 Play ⁠
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How many of you enjoy it? 🙋🏻‍♀️ Whether you’re a curious beginner or a seasoned explorer, there’s something incredibly hot and deeply liberating about exploring pleasure through the backdoor—both receiving and giving. ⁠
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Personally? I absolutely LOVE pegging! There’s something so intoxicating about the power, intimacy, and vulnerability that comes with strapping in and taking the lead. And when it comes to receiving? Let’s just say my princess plug and I are well acquainted. 👑💦 ⁠
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Why is 🍑 play SO pleasurable? ⁠
The an**s is packed with nerve endings—*half of the entire pelvic region’s sensory nerves are interconnected with surrounding muscles, making it incredibly sensitive to pleasure. These nerves are concentrated around the opening and just inside, meaning you don’t have to go deep to experience pleasure! ⁠
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Pegging & An**l Play Tips: ⁠
✨ LUBE, LUBE, LUBE! Unlike the vagina, the anus does not self-lubricate, so a thick, long-lasting lube is essential for comfort and pleasure. ⁠
✨ Go slow & listen to your body. Anal play can bring up intense sensations—both physically and emotionally. This area is connected to the root chakra, which is tied to safety, security, and trust. ⁠
✨ Toys can be a game-changer! Princess plugs, dildos, strap-ons, glass/crystal plugs, prostate massagers—there are so many ways to explore. Find what excites you and start at your own pace. ⁠
✨ Breathe & relax. Clenching makes penetration uncomfortable. Deep breaths, arousal, and full-body relaxation are key. ⁠
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Exploring 🍑pleasure is not just about physical sensation—it can also be deeply healing, empowering, and transformative when approached with trust and intention. ⁠
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So tell me—do you love to play in this space? Have you tried pegging or being pegged? Let’s talk about it in the comments! 🔥💬 ⁠
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#Pegging #AnalPlay #RootChakraHealing #StrapOnFun #PeggingIsHot #SomaticSexCoach #EroticExploration #PrioritizePleasure #SexualLiberation #ConsciousSexuality #AnalPleasure #PowerAndVulnerability

When we first started the YYC Social back in 2017, it was all about creating a space where people in the non-monogamous, queer, and sex-positive communities could come together and connect. Over the years, we’ve had speed meets, game nights, and so many incredible moments of laughter, learning, and genuine connection. And now… we’re ready to try something new. ⁠
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🕹️🍺 Introducing ARCADE & BREWERY TAKEOVER 🍺🕹️⁠
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Picture this: You’re sipping a cold craft brew, surrounded by vibrant arcade lights and the buzz of pinball machines, dressed in whatever makes you feel confident and fabulous. The vibe? Playful, welcoming, and full of flirty energy. There’s a cozy booth for deep convos, retro games to break the ice, and a whole room of open-minded folks ready to connect and have fun. ⁠
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Date: May 22, 2025 ⁠
Location: Inwood, Calgary (Address provided after registration) ⁠
Cover: $10/person – Limited spots available! ⁠
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Ready to experience something a little more refined but just as fun? Don’t wait—RSVP now before we hit capacity! ⁠
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TICKETS: $10/person⁠
Now powered by NU Lifestyle! No paid membership needed—just make a free account to register:⁠
👉 nulifestyle.club/events/134⁠
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PIC CREDITS: @hashtagopen⁠
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#SpringFlingYYC ⁠
#BougieButFun ⁠
#MeetMingleConnect ⁠
#UpscaleVibes ⁠
#OpenRelationshipsYYC ⁠
#CNMCommunity ⁠
#IntimateConnections ⁠
#FlirtAndMingle

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